Forgiveness

I just finished a book about forgiveness. It is one of the “go-to” books in mental health therapy for helping people through the process of forgiveness.

Forgiveness Is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope. Dr. Robert D. Enright https://a.co/d/bo5ixrx

There are a few takeaways I believe can be helpful in our everyday work lives. Your teammates and colleagues will hurt you, intentionally and unintentionally. Clients will abuse you and take you for granted. Supervisors will ignore you or may belittle you. We need to know what forgiveness is and how to exercise it.

1. Forgiveness is both a Choice and a Process. I am so relieved to know that when I have been hurt, forgiveness is not something that will come easily or quickly. As human beings, we cannot just turn our emotions on and off. However, we can exercise self-control. We have the power to make a choice. Should you choose to forgive, you are exercising your freedom and power to release your anger by experiencing it in a healthy way. So you Choose to forgive and then experience that forgiveness in the Process of experiencing emotions through release, not harboring them.
   
   
2. Forgiveness teaches us how to be Fully Human. People will disappoint you, slander you, abuse you, disregard you, and offend you. It is part of the common human experience. By holding grudges and nurturing bitterness, we devalue our humanity and only harm ourselves further. To be more Fully Human means to do the heavy lifting and hard work of forgiveness.
   
   
3. Forgiveness offers the prospect of Unity and Reconciliation. In concert with being fully human, forgiveness offers us the opportunity to be in Unity with our human brothers and sisters. Forgiveness holds out its hands with a gift of potential Reconciliation to restore peace where there once was strife.
   
   

You spend hours upon hours with your work colleagues and clients. As such, there will be opportunities for offense and hurtful behaviors. I encourage you to explore forgiveness as a way of life. Be an agent of change in your sphere of influence by exercising forgiveness. You cannot control what others may say or do to you. You can control your attitude and responsiveness by offering dignity and respect through a spirit of forgiveness.