I do not remember when I first discovered this saying. I do remember thinking, “I need to remember this!”
Lack of planning on YOUR part does not constitute an emergency on MY part. Or, lack of planning on MY part does not constitute an emergency on YOUR part. It works both ways!
I wanted to remember this phrase because I have been both the perpetrator of forcing an emergency on someone else due to my negligence and I have been the victim of others’ negligence. In either case, it does not foster healthy relationships or a strong work environment.
The best way to avoid pushing emergencies on your teammates is to plan ahead and communicate. Taking a few minutes to prepare for your day, your week, your month is well-invested time that pays huge dividends. You may deceive yourself into thinking, “I don’t have time to waste planning out every task and every step. We just need to get it done!” This is a deception because you will spend more time correcting errors, explaining, and reworking than if you had communicated a plan from the start.
So, the next time you are tempted to push your disregard onto someone else, pause and take responsibility for your misstep. It may be necessary to apologize. Then move forward by taking the time to plan and communicate with your team.
Leadership is not a title. So what is it?
Leading others is earned. It is a relational dynamic. It is a willing connection.
Leaders pull, not push.
Leaders raise their hand to volunteer first. They sacrifice first.
Leaders listen to complaints, they do not give them.
Leaders earn respect. They do not demand it.
Leaders demonstrate patience and calm. They are a voice of reason.
Leaders ask great questions and patiently listen to the answer.
Leaders speak to your potential, not to your past.
Leaders take responsibility. They do not blame.
Leaders have imperfections and faults, but they do not get comfortable with them as part of their identity.
Leaders invite others in, not push people out.
So, no matter your title or level of responsibility, you can lead! Being a leader is not something awarded to you. It is something you do because you love and desire to serve.
The original blog post was published by The Engineering Management Institute.
Your Ears Are Your Strongest Resolution and Negotiation Weapons (engineeringmanagementinstitute.org)
Most of the content I researched around resolution and negotiation focused on the self. Where most advice falls short is that the advice focuses on YOU; YOUR feelings, YOUR body language, YOUR decision-making, YOUR attitude, and YOUR behaviors. What about your negotiating partner? What about their feelings, body language, decision-making, attitude, and behaviors? Ears are the gateways to receiving critical information about your environment and about the person with whom your are trying to resolve a conflict.
When you focus on opening your ears, closing your mouth, and focusing on the other person, several key dynamics are put in motion:
Gabe Lett, FSMPS, CPSM, LPC